Get help for you and your addicted loved one
Hi there. If you’ve got a husband, wife, son, daughter, close friend, or other loved one who is suffering from drugs or alcohol addiction, this page is for you. It contains the information you need to learn how to get started on your journey to get your life back from their addiction and help them get engaged with treatment and along the road to recovery.
Feel free to read top-to-bottom or jump around using the titles below.
The Sober Families Approach
We specialize in helping family members do two things:
- Learn and practice supportive and positive methods for motivating their loved one to cut back and stop using drugs or alcohol.
- Empower themselves to live a life not centered on their loved ones’ addiction.
We provide support and encouragement to family members to help them get their life back on track and teach skills on how to motivate their one to want to stop using drugs and alcohol. Our approach is based on a method called Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT), an approach that has been shown by research to help approximately 70% of families get their loved ones into treatment. In addition, research shows that participating in a program like ours helps family members feel better about themselves, get their life on track, and improves their relationship with their loved one.
What Sober Families is Not
Let’s make sure you know what this approach is and set some realistic expectations before you dig any deeper.
1. Learning the skills you need to move forward is NOT easy and it takes a lot of hard work.
You know from experience that living with an addicted family member is not easy. It’s hard to make changes and figure out what to do that is helpful. We’re here to be direct with you: It takes time and work to learn the skills you need to move ahead. We’ll do our best to guide you and give you the information you need, but we can’t force you to take action; that’s up to you.
2. Getting your loved one sober is NOT impossible.
Research shows that kind of approach we use at Sober Families is much more likely to help you get your loved one into treatment than other approaches. Put simply, there are proven things you can do to influence your family member in a positive way. While their addiction is not your fault, there are things family members can do to change its course. Is changing addiction easy? No. Does it take time and energy? You bet. But if you’re ready to work on helping your loved one break the cycle of addiction, we’re ready to help and have some strategies that have been proven to help a lot of people.
3. You do NOT need to confront your loved one to get them help.
Our approach is non-confrontational, so there are no show-downs or surprise parties where you (or other family members) tell off the loved one and try to force him/her into treatment. If you get involved with us, we’ll teach you non-confrontive, loving ways to respond to your loved one that can motivate them to want to seek treatment and reduce the barriers to them getting the help they need. We’ll also support you in taking your life back from their addiction. We want you to have control over your life, whether your loved one gets sober or not. You have the right to a good life.
The Sober Families Approach: Where to Start
We suggest that people start in a few different places, depending upon where they are at:
I’d like an overview of the different options that can help me deal with an addicted loved one.
- One of the first things we did when we created this website was write about the different options that are out there to help an addicted loved one. Go here for an overview of what we wrote.
I’d like to learn more about how addiction works.
- If you’re wanting to learn more about addiction, we provide an overview of our work on that here.
I’d like to learn more about how Sober Families can help me and my loved one with addiction.
- We are constantly developing new materials and resources for family members of people dealing with addiction. The main way that you can keep in touch about our new materials and resources is through signing up for our newsletter.
- Our newsletter will send you an alert about once per month about any new content that we create. We promise we won’t sell your email to anyone or send you spam. We will use it solely to give you awesome info and even engage with you at times. You can unsubscribe at any time, but we do our best to make sure you are not disappointed. As a thank you for signing up, you’ll get instant access to our free 10 week email course that gives you lots of tips and tricks on how to deal with common situations confronted by family members who have an addicted loved one. Just enter your name and email below and we’ll get you going right away.
We Appreciate You!
We want to end by saying that we’re here for you, as a guide but also as a support in a really tough situation.
We do our best to respond to all emails and all comments that are submitted. We understand how hard it is to be in a family with someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol. We’re here to help you and your family get to a better place.
If you’ve made it this far, we’d love for you to come say hi to on our Facebook Page. We’ll definitely respond, and we look forward to meeting you! Best,
–The Sober Families Team
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